This month’s ezine topic is a juicy one, if you are anything like most people who struggle with failure …
I think we have a very skewed view of success and failure in our modern-day society. I find it hard to reconcile the concept that “failure is good” with the reality that “failing is gut-wrenching, agonizing and generally to be avoided at all costs.”
Failures can be things like:
- A business partnership flops
- The product you thought was going to sell 1,000 units sells 5
- You failed to deliver what you promised to your client on time
- You get terrible feedback from users reviewing your new website
- You choke in a live presentation
- You don’t secure the venture funding you were counting on
Based on work with clients and my own personal gut-wrenching, I have found that there are some steps to take that not only make you feel a bit less stressed at having made a mistake, but actually make you feel good about the things you learned from the experience.
- Describe the situation objectively
- Brainstorm reasons why you think it turned out the way that it did
- Figure out what you could do differently in a similar situation in the future
- Make a plan of recovery
- Honestly and sincerely thank yourself for learning the lessons
The complete article with more details is here.
I know that the only way to grow and learn is by experimenting. Sometimes, this will involve making mistakes. By taking some of the self-flagellating heat out of our experience of failure, we will learn faster.
How do you emotionally process failure? What have you done to recover from it?