I am getting excited about the “open source career coaching” possibilities, as my friend John Fritz recently called the “Jon the ballplayer” series.
So here is a juicy one for your input. I am withholding my opinion on this first (for you Tom 😉 but will share my view once I read yours.
Says Gentle Reader “Dave”:
I imagine I’m not the only one in this situation.
- I want to be an independent coach and also run my own projects.
already have a couple of clients and several more leads and would like
to quit my day job now to make room for growing that business.
- My wife is going to try to change employers (she is a teacher) and
the prospect of neither of us being in a stable job is too much, so she
wants me to keep the day job.
So there’s the tension. I want to quit now. She is afraid that that would be too much stress and instability.
We have enough money to easily cover a year’s worth of expenses,
I’ve proven the ability to get clients, and my day job (where I work
with my uncle) is about to shift me into a new role which would be a
real problem if I abandoned it shortly thereafter.
I feel confident that it would be best to make the move sooner rather
than later, but my wife sees that as inconsistent with supporting her
and mitigating the risk of her job search which she rightly feels that I owe her at this point.
have failed at an attempt like this in the past which led to her
supporting us for several months. We both agree that this is different,
however, and that what I have learned has changed things. We are 24 and
25 years old.
I would be interested in your thoughts on the situation if it wouldn’t be too much trouble. Thank you for your time.
After I asked if I could post his question, he clarified here:
I want to make sure my wife’s concerns are represented fairly, and of
course, my email slants toward my side a bit. So, forgive me for adding
to the length here, but I want to be considerate of her viewpoint.
She is supportive and cautiously optimistic about my new venture,
but she feels like as though I ought to be willing to support her as
she did for me during the previous attempt. I am willing–I see that as
entirely consistent with my desire to do my own thing, supporting her
She’s big on the idea of at least one of us having a “steady job,”
and she also wonders what other people will think if I go trying to be
independent again despite the previous failure.
necessarily need to include all of this, of course, but for us to get
the most value out of the exercise, I want to make sure I’m presenting
as close to the full picture as possible.